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Don’t Look Back


Many times in life we are given opportunities to say goodbye.  Sometimes by our own choice, and others forced.  It may be a lover who the heat between you fizzled and replaced with an abyss of pain, guilt, and anger.  A loved one passing, and the pain of not saying “I love you” enough haunts you everyday.  Or best friend moving across country and the best intentions laid to “keep in touch”.  Whatever good bye you have had to give…there was pain.

So, why do we reject it?  Why is it so easy to tell someone, “Oh, you will forget all about…”.  I’m sorry..excuse me?  We each grieve in our own way, cope, endure, whichever it is for you..does not mean the next person will the same.  It seems to have become an uncomfortable and awkward white elephant in the room, so much easier to say “It will be O.K.”.  Who are we trying to convince though?  Ourselves?  Do we mean it?  Why not just reach out and give someone a hug…a shoulder to cry on…why must we suddenly become experts in good bye, when faced with it ourselves would become a crumpled piece of paper on the floor.

Why do we say, “Don’t look back”?  Why the hell not??  This is how we learn, yes it’s fucking painful, but deal with it!  Then, the proper thing would be to …move on.  So, I say..always look back..because if you don’t remember where you came from.. the demons on your heels will.


5 responses

  1. Yea I agree, it can hurt sometime to look back, and in order to move forward in life, we’ll just have to suck it up and let it go. Maybe that’s one of the reason why they say moving forward takes a lot of effort.

    April 24, 2014 at 1:22 am

    • So very true, and why lots of people don’t move forward..they don’t think they are strong enough..
      Thank you for the reply 🙂

      April 24, 2014 at 3:06 am

  2. Wonderfuly written. I completely agree we should not forget ,we should not ignore, but what we should do is embraced what wasas we grow and forge forward. without my past I would not be Who I am now … so why would I want to forget,completely forget, and ignore what made me the person I am now. Now of course, there is no reason for us to lay and stagnate in our past; be it a relationship, Grief, addiction etc. Moving forward is paramount to growth and discovering new things and going to new places however, forgetting where you came from is the quickest way to get yourself right back there! Great post thanks for sharing.

    April 24, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    • Jenn..Wow thank you so much for your great add on to this. I am so happy that you feel this way! It is so true, we must never forget where we came from. Vicious cycles await us when we keep buying the ticket for another ride. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! Happy blogging 🙂

      April 24, 2014 at 9:09 pm

      • Stargazer,

        your post was refreshing ad I enjoyed it. I too am happy to know that there are others who feel this way as well. it is a rule I live by!!! I look forward to reading more of your stuff. thanks again for sharing

        April 24, 2014 at 10:54 pm

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